Forgiveness: A Powerful Abstract

by Derek Ayre



On that rare, but profound experience when Self and others can be experienced as one, the invitation for forgiveness crops up. Misfortune visits us all sometime during life and most of us seem to add even more weight to our burden through the process of blame.

I have noticed through my life that whenever I blamed somebody (or something) else for a misfortune, it was me, I-myself, that experienced even more stress, not the perpetrator of the wrong-doing to whom I was directing blame.

As time went by, if I could forgive them, I could once again relate to them and maybe even find the relationship enhanced.  If I couldn't forgive them, even though I may consciously forget about the perceived "wrong" I had been done, the blame would have shifted from consciousness, down into the subconscious and then deeper still, into the unconscious mind robbing me of some of my life-force (energy). I knew this because, if during meditation or contemplation, some incident brought back a repressed memory of a "wrong-doing", I would discover the upset (anger, hurt etc), still there, eating away at me putting unnecessary wear and tear on my nervous system. The nervous system has also been proved to be closely linked with the immune system.

The only way to release oneself from the strain of such unconscious conflict, is forgiveness.  But what is forgiveness? How do we do it?

The first step is that we have to be willing to begin the process. We need to let go of all the blame directed at others for our misfortunes. And it's not only people that gets entangled in our "blame game". It could be inanimate objects, circumstances, the universe or life itself!

We then need to recognise that ALL blame not matter where it is directed (self or outside of self), only hurts our Self. Because within our experience, everyone and everything that we are aware of, is part of US, as part of own consciousness.  We are our own creators of life and to blame anything for our misfortune, is to blame our self. Blame is a prerequisite of guilt. That means if someone/something is blamed, it must be guilty.  And that guilt "demands" punishment.

Blaming others is to blame our self and will go on to elicit the "appropriate" punishment. You may have noticed that other people, who are constantly playing the "blame game" for their misfortunes in life, find it hard to let go of the problem, and are rarely happy and all too often seem to suffer from one form of illness to another.

Forgiveness is something that is done within the mind of the individual. It is abstract and therefore very powerful, but once it is done, it releases the individual from the pain of the past incident that caused that pain.

To forgive one has to be willing and willingness cannot be forced. One can only review the "traumatic event" with an intention to forgive all parties involved, whether it be somebody else, oneself or circumstance.

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